I’ve been dating my boyfriend for the past 8 years, we met in middle school through a mutual friend and pretty much been dating every since! I wouldn’t say our relationship was serious back then, because we were so young! So I don’t know if I should say 8 years, but it has been 8 long years of great friendship. Before we started dating, we were friends, hanging out, having fun and doing stuff that normal teenagers do.
We would literally talk on the phone for hours, which is hilarious because we wouldn’t get off of the phone until one of our parents picked up the landline and say it’s such and such time, you’ll see him/her at school tomorrow. We did this for about 5 months, until he “Mike” decided to ask me to be his girlfriend. I definitely said yes, of course lol. Even with us going to different schools after our 9th grade year, we still kept in contact with each other and would arrange to see each other once a month.
I think it wasn’t until we were about 15-16 years old when our relationship began to get serious, I think we were both at a point in our lives where we felt like this was something we both wanted. Yeah I know, we were young butttt we just knew that we wanted each other and that was just that. We went from seeing each other once a month, to pretty much seeing each other a couple of times a week “if we weren’t working, or at school”. Mike ended up getting his license and buying a car, so yeah we were definitely seeing each other a whole lot more.
We had our first child “Autumn” very young 17 and 19 years old and I believe at that time is when we became more responsible, selfless adults and parents! I mean you would hear and see stories of young couples, having children but separating before or after the child was born. So in that sense, I didn’t know what our future held, but he was very supportive and more than ready to take on our new responsibility. His actions proved everything statistic said wrong, that’s why I love him so much!
I think it’s so important to build a friendship, before you jump into a relationship. Every relationship is different, that I do know! Establishing a friendship and getting to know the person you’re dating or see yourself being with long term is so important. People look at young couples and say all types of negative things and it really makes me kind of sad and disgusted that they wouldn’t be supportive of two people who are in love. I’m not saying this happened to us, but I’m just speaking in general.
If you’re a person who loves and values yourself, being disrespected by another individual will never be tolerated in your life, period! I think that people know who they can disrespect and run over, because they’ll continue to do it especially if they see that that’s the type of behavior you allow into your life.
People who really love and respect you, will never disrespect you! & that’s as real as its going to get, setting some boundaries in your life on the things you will not tolerate or settle for should definitely be a priority! Also, If you’re constantly telling yourself this person loves me and cares about me, but their actions shows you other wise then maybe they really don’t love or care about you! It doesn’t matter how much you do for that individual, if they don’t want to love and respect you, then that’s just something they’re not going to do! It doesn’t matter how many times you allow that person back into your life, if they don’t want to change the way that they treat you then that’s just really what it is.
People mentally check themselves out of the relationship earlier on when they feel like it’s not going anywhere, the love or connection isn’t there anymore or whatever the case may be. Don’t get me wrong they will continue to be around, just to be around because they don’t want to let you go! So they continue to string you along with all of these lies, promises and etc. Some people are just controlling and will rather see you unhappy with them, instead of being happy with someone else!
Moral to the story: Don’t ignore the red flags you begin to see earlier on in the relationship, friendship or whatever the case may be.
Best decision I’ve ever made for my child was to breastfeed him, & the fact that it’s even healthier for him makes it all worth it. It’s been 6 months since I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy, & we’re still enjoying this breastfeeding journey! Mike is my biggest supporter when it comes to breastfeeding, besides the mommy pages I follow. Whenever I feel like giving up, he always remind me that I have another 6 months to go lol.
Breastfeeding isn’t easy the first week or two, because you feel like your milk isn’t coming in fast enough. But what I have learned is the more you put your baby on your breast, the more milk you produce. Of course your nipples are going to be really sore and cracking, the first week or so. But after that, it goes right to normal and the soreness goes away! Now if you’re still expericing tenderness on your nipples, I would definitely talk to a lactation specialist or your doctor.
People always ask me “when will you stop breastfeeding”? I guess the answer to your questions is I don’t think I’ll stop anytime soon and to be completely honest, I’m thinking about breastfeeding until he’s about one or two years old. I totally wouldn’t mind breastfeeding for another year or so.
I think that in order for you to have a healthy relationship with your partner, you have to make time for one another and make your relationship a priority! If you have children, you will know that finding a babysitter can sometimes be impossible! Which is very understandable, sometimes it can be very complicated trying to plan out a date night especially when you have younger children. But, it’s very possible and can be accomplished! I think a few nights out of a month to just enjoy each other’s company, can be very rewarding for the both of you guys! I’m not saying you have to go out and do anything super fancy, sometimes watching a movie at home and just talking can be very relaxing to the both of you! Consistency is definitely key. 🔑
I just want to take the time out to wish my baby girl a special happy 5th birthday today, the day you were born was the day me and your father became responsible parents, adults and selfless! You bring joy and happiness into our lives each and everyday! You’re so smart, intelligent, well mannered, shy, goofy, the best big sister, funny and pretty much everything we could ever had wanted in a little girl! Today is your day princess, & we’re going to make sure you have a blast this weekend at your sleepover! 👑🎀
This year I’m going to focus more on the things that really matters the most in my life. The first step is for me to get rid of my distractions. Social media being one of them. I feel as though some of these sites are becoming a really big distraction for me and it’s beginning to take away my focus, energy and putting me into some pretty annoying situations.
I’m not saying social media is bad, but when it’s becoming a really big distraction in your life and you feel as though you’re spending more time online, than actually living and enjoying your life with your loved ones… Then that’s a problem, & for me that’s a really big problem. Especially when you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t use social media and them seeing you on your phone 90% of the time can become really annoying at times, which can cause problems in your relationship and that I don’t want lol.