1. Tell us a little bit about yourself + where do you reside and what it is you do? Where can we find you on social media?
My name is AAliyah Choi, 23 years old.
I live in Virginia.
I am a mom of one.
I am married.
I am a PCOS advocate.
Instagram: ThatCysterGirl Blog
2. What was your childhood like? Were you introverted/and or extroverted?
I was introverted early in my childhood because I was not around kids of my age. At elementary school, I became more extroverted as I spent more time with lots of kids that were in my age.
3. At what age did you begin to struggle with confidence? Explain what transpired during that time period?
I struggled with confidence since I was around 7 years old. Low self-esteem, being bullied, and being in an abusive environment-especially verbally, sexually, and physically at home-were contributing factors to my struggle with confidence.
4. Did this have a negative effect on your relationship with yourself and others?
Yes; It caused me to have guard up constantly, locked inside my head, which made me reserved and unable to make/trust friends. I was scared if people would do me wrong once trusted.
5. What was the most challenging time period in your life?
I was in a severe stage of puberty. Lots of confusion and loneliness
6. Did you ever feel as though you were spiraling out of control? If so, at what age did you begin to lose self-control?
Yes; I began to lose control when i was around 16 years old.
7. Did you ever seek professional help? If so, what was that like?
No; I did not reach out for help during my pregnancy with my daughter. I was scared because of the idea of letting somebody who does not know me to get inside of my head.
8. Do you have anyone in your corner? Who are your biggest supporters?
Yes; My biggest supporter is my husband and our daughter and most importantly GOD.
9. Do you believe social media has a positive or negative impact on the way you view confidence from within?
Yes; it is mix of positive and negative. In this day and age, there is a battle between natural and artificial beauty.
10. What was the hardest thing you had to embrace when it came to YOUR truth?
My Body; I spent so time being negative, neglecting my body. I now live in consequences of that negligence, such as stretch marks, medical issues, and inconceivability.
11. What are something’s that’s holding you back from being confident in your truth?
My Mind; My mind is my biggest critic.
12. What steps do you need to take to show up for yourself?
Taking a me-time, writing self-love notes.
13. How are you going to cultivate confidence/wholeness this year and moving forward?
Stepping out of my comfort zone, embracing my natural beauty, no make-up, taking a holistic approach in self care.
14. What lessons have you learned? What advice would you give to someone who is struggling with cultivating confidence and their truth?
You cannot please anyone.
Don’t cheat yourself out of greatness by running away from your true-self and trying to live for others.
15. If you had to tell anything to that little girl you used to be, what would that be? & also tell her what type of woman are you today?
You are stronger than you think you are.
After years of perseverance and determination, I became the beautiful butterfly I was always seeking to be.