Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.


When you hear the term “self-care” what’s the first thing you think of?

A relaxing day at the spa? A trip to the nail salon? A warm bubble bath w/ a glass of wine? A little retail therapy? A day at the beach? Getting a wax? Reading a new book you got from the library? Going to the movies alone? Coffee date? Or maybe doing some type of meditation/yoga?

What self-care looks like to me…

When I think of self-care, I think about unplugging + getting intune with my inner-self. It’s investing, putting myself first, and loving myself enough to make myself a priority.

Self-care is taking the initiative time for yourself, when your mind and body is telling you otherwise.

As much as we know that we can’t pour from an empty cup, we still tend to keep pouring, until we’re completely empty, which isn’t healthy. We do this because we think that if we take time out for ourselves, we’re being selfish, but I am here to tell you that self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.

Quick self-reflection…

A few years ago I would have never pictured myself practicing self-care, and digging deep within myself. I was definitely the type of person that made sure everything + everyone around me was great, which slowly made me lose myself. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with depression, that I knew I had to take better care of my mental, emotional, and physical well-being. It wasn’t easy, but it was definitely worth it.


If you’re taking care of yourself, and it’s making you happy, a better person, and you feel an abundance amount of peace in your life, why would you care if it offends someone else? There are going to be people in your life that’s not going to understand your self-care/love journey, but that has nothing to do with you! Some people are content with seeing you down and out, and can’t fathom a new and improve you.

But guess what? That’s okay…

These types of people will always try to discredit you, and the places you’re headed. Their thoughts, and negative opinions about your self-care journey has nothing to do with you, but it says lot about them, and one day they’ll have to face it for themselves. But until then, continue to move forward in love.
Self-care is imperative, and essential to our everyday life.

You might be the type of person that’s always looking out for others, and tend to neglect yourself. Or you think self-care is spending money, you sometimes don’t have. But self-care is a lot of things, and it doesn’t always have to involve money. This could be taking a bubble bath, reading a book/blog, catching up on your favorite tv shows, trying out a new recipe you seen on Pinterest, writing etc. Don’t get me wrong, self-care looks different for everyone, and that’s okay.

Quick side note…

Sometimes we put too much on our plate when it comes to self-care; just focus on the things that works for you.

Things I want you all to know…

Self-care is doing the things that makes you feel good on the inside and out. It’s the simple things that brings you joy, and happiness. It’s the things that makes you feel whole, refreshed, cared for, loved, and recharged. Self-care is about being intentional, and mindful. Self-care is committing to growing, and loving on yourself everyday. It’s being gentle, and compassionate about the things you enjoy.

Here’s a self-care checklist to incorporate into your daily life, feel free to change things that fits your needs.


Takeia Cage


9 thoughts on “Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.

  1. It’s because of you and Unashamed Queens that I’ve learned to take time for myself. In the past, I constantly did for others, even if it meant disregarding my own needs because I thought it was selfish to put aside time for myself. Eventually that led to me being burnt out. Now, I do something daily for myself and set aside a day each week for “Britt.” Thank you so much stressing the importance of self-care! I’ve discovered self-love , peace, and serenity because of it.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. This just made my day, I’m so glad we’re able to help you in your journey! ❤️

      & you’re forever welcome, and you got this! It’s a journey, but it’s worth it ❤️


  2. I love this! Self- love is something that I just blogged about on my site like a week ago as I’ve really been working on this also. I find it hard sometimes to take step back from life and give myself that TLC that I really need to get back into my right state of mind. There just comes a time when you just have to put everyone else’s needs to the side so you can actually focus on yourself. I like this checklist you ended with as well, sounds like my kind of Sunday!

    You can check out my post on loving yourself here if you’d like.

    I’ll be keeping up with you though, hope you have a great Monday, be blessed!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Yes! This is so viral and important, I think sometimes we fail ourselves because we’re so used to pouring into others, when we should also be pouring into ourselves as well. When we feel our best, we give our best.

      I’m glad you like the checklist, let me know how it goes ❤️

      & I just followed you back, about to check out your post now ❤️

      Have a great rest of your week ❤️

      Liked by 1 person

  3. I love to see and hear women indulge in self-care because there’s so much power in choosing to unplug from the constant noise and get back to a place of solitude within themself.

    It is imperative to nurture ourselves as women and be intentional about watering the things that bring us joy, peace, good health, and space to evolve and become the best version of YOU.

    We should never hold back from gifting ourselves with what we need to become better.

    Great read! Love you, T!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Yessss! This is very much true, and some people have conditioned themselves into thinking that they can’t take care of theirselves because it will slow them down, which isn’t true at all.

      Thanks babes, love you too ❤️


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s