choosing self-compassion 


Are you tired of listening to the negative, nagging, and nasty voices you put inside of your head? Are you tired of beating yourself up? Are you tired of pushing yourself too hard? Are you tired of pushing yourself away? Are you tired of feeling down, when you only want to feel up?

For years; I’ve allowed self-sabotage + fear to creep up inside of me, and control my mind, heart, and spirit. I’ve let negative self-talk control my worth, and cause me to miss out on so many great experiences + opportunities because I wasn’t confident within myself. I’ve also allowed the feeling of not being good “enough” bring me into a really dark + depressing space. 

People see a beautiful woman, and swears she doesn’t have a worry in the world. Which in fact, it’s not always about what’s on the outside, but how you treat yourself on the inside. I’ve spent a great deal of years beating myself up, down talking my gifts, and being ashamed of my truths. It didn’t matter what anyone told me, I didn’t feel + see all of those great things within myself.

I’ve caused myself a great deal of self-inflicted pain, and it wasn’t until 2 years ago, I had to genuinely forgive myself. Forgive myself for feeling worthless, undeserving, and most importantly for not loving myself, unconditionally.

There’s not a book, class, therapist, life coach, webinar, or event that’s going to make you, choose you! You have to be ready + willing to choose you, and do the work that’s going to get you to where you need to be mentally, emotionally, spiritually , and etc.

We don’t understand that the negative things + habits we feed ourselves will leave us depleted, instead of nourished. I’ve realized that the negative things we feed our minds are exactly how we take care of ourselves, and it’s not healthy.

Here are a few negative thoughts:

  1. I have no one in my life who genuinely love + care about me.
  2. I feel worthless, and undeserving.
  3. I’m not beautiful.
  4. Everything is going wrong in my life.
  5. I feel like giving up on everything.

Here are a few positive thoughts:

  1. I am deserving of self-love + compassion.
  2. I accept + love myself, unconditionally.
  3. I am beautiful on the inside and out.
  4. I am grateful for everyone that’s in my life.
  5. Even though my life isn’t perfect, but I have enough right now.

I just want to encourage you all to continue to shower your minds daily with fruitful, and positive things! Everyday isn’t going to be a good day, but you can always turn that bad day into a good evening. 

What I’m learning today…

I’m learning that it’s okay to be uncertain + not having everything all figured out. I’m also learning that you have to show up for yourself, and never rely on other people to do the work for you! If you want to be a better, happier, and joyful person you have to understand that all of these great things comes from within…

Self-compassion + love isn’t going to be easy, it requires a lot of self-discipline + control. There’s going to be the not so “beautiful” parts, but this is all apart of the process, and your end results are going to be breath taking.

Anywho…

This has been one incredible + transformative experience in my life. & I’m so grateful that I’m able to share my struggles + truths with you all, because a few years ago I wouldn’t imagine being as transparent as I am today.

Here’s a quick journal prompt:

What choices are you going to make this month, that’s going to allow you to be more gentle + compassionate with yourself? How can you love, support, and show up for yourself more this month?

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Author: Takeia.

Hello beautiful souls, I'm Takeia Cage, and I'm the CEO/Founder of Unashamed Queens! I'm an advocate, momtrepreneur, life coach, and motivational blogger. I have always been dedicated to helping women re-discover their light, while walking in their truth, unashamed! It wasn’t until I was in my early twenties, when I discovered my calling to be an advocate for the women in my community. I have always wanted to be apart of a sisterhood that supported, uplifted, and celebrated women without us feeling judged or even ashamed of our journey. There wasn’t many women empowerment groups in my community that actually focused on celebrating queens, so I decided to create my own community for unashamed women. Now I am the founder of Unashamed Queens, a women’s empowerment group that focuses on supporting, uplifitng, and celebrating queenhood. I would always tell myself years ago that you can’t help anyone if you can’t help yourself, and today I believe that statement is so untrue. It wasn’t until I was re-discovering my own light, that I wanted to also encourage/help other women to re-discover theirs as well. I truly believe that we’re all stronger together, and that creating a safe-space for women to feel support and loved through sisterhood.

2 thoughts on “choosing self-compassion ”

  1. Love this post. You’re completely right – the negative habits and thoughts to do take a toll on us. That’s so amazing you’re able to recognize this and are starting to learn to love yourself. Wishing you all the best – speak766

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