1. SELF LOVE!
I’m going to start this off with a quote from Bishop T.D Jakes, he said “we teach people how to love us, by how we love ourselves”this statement is very true and important. If you don’t love yourself first, you allow the person you’re with to give you either no love, or they half love you! When you love yourself, the person you’re with is either going to love you or step away because he’s not ready to love you and that’s completely okay! I would rather for a man to not want to be with me because of how I love myself, then being with me not able to love me more than I love myself!
2. BE YOURSELF!
I can’t even express how important and vital it is for us to be ourselves, when we’re looking to date/dating! Not only are you fully accepting yourself, but you give the person you’re pursuing clarification oh who you really are without pretending to be someone else! You don’t have to do anything out of the ordinary to get their attention, because he already knows exactly who you are and what you stand for as a woman!
3. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
Always, this is very important! You don’t have to settle for someone just because you’re lonely and you see everyone else with a boo/bae or whatever! The person that wants to court/date you, will find his way to you! Just be patient and trust that God will send the right person whose going to love you unconditionally! You want have to steal someone else’s man, fight for his attention or post all those memes on social media for this man to find you either!
4. SPEAK UP!
If you don’t like something your partner is doing, speak up and let them know how you’re feeling! People aren’t mind readers, you have to be able to communicate with your partner on things that’s bothering you! If you’re a person who doesn’t like confrontation or you feel like your partner isn’t going to listen to you, then maybe that person isn’t for you because if they are, your feelings would matter!
5.EXPECTATIONS VS REALITY!
Now we all know social media has a huge impact on the way relationships is today(some relationships), they have memes and videos of relationship goals and most women like what they see from these things! Which is okay, I mean it’s cute and all but if you’re with a person that’s not with all of that then hey, it is what it is. I think social media gives people the illusion that if you’re not doing this and that, your relationship is boring! Which is definitely not the case, another persons relationship shouldn’t even be your goals. Just find someone who loves you for you and makes you happy inside and out!