How do I juggle being a parent, my relationship, being a full time student and working full time. 

I just want to throw in there juggling all of these things aren’t easy, at all. There’s going to be days where you feel like it’s too much, & just want to give up at times. I guess for me over the years time management has helped me in so many ways possible, & I have to always tell myself that one day all of this all will eventually pay off.

If you’re wondering who keeps the kids while I’m running around like a chicken with my head cut off, it’s Mike. He works overnights at the post office, while I work the day shift at the bank and go to school in the evening. Nights and weekends is my bonding time with my children, & I cherish every second watching Annie over and over again.

People say to me all the time, I don’t see how you do it and still able to make time for your children and your man. To honestly answer your question, you have to know what comes first and prioritize. My family is the most important thing in my life, so I’m going to make sure they’re my first priority at the end of the day! But I do have to make a living for us, & by that I go to work and school.

Juggling my relationship with all of the things I have going on….

Mike is very supportive and doesn’t really require much from me, just because he knows how important it is for me to accomplish my goals. Let’s not get it twisted, we do make it a priority to make time for eachother. We’re both off on the weekends so we spend the whole weekend either doing things as a family or having a date night for a few hours, while the kids are away at their nana house.

Despite having different work schedules, & not being able to spend time with eachother whenever we want to is kind of frustrating at times but its something you have to get accustomed to when you have children, especially small children. I’ll see him for a few hours before its time for me to start my day and when I get off its time for him to get ready to start his overnight shift. I guess this just works for us, I know people who require so much time together with their spouse that they tend to bump heads because the other person is too busy! In our case, it’s just never that serious! We both know that we have to work in order for us to take care of our children, household and ourselves. So we understand that we won’t be able to see and spend as much time as we would like, but we have priorities so we just have to do what we have to do.

Working and trying to finish college:

I do have my days where I’m just like, you know what I don’t want this anymore! I just would rather work and not think about the stress of graduating from college, but I think about my job and how I don’t want to a bank teller for the rest of my life. So I suck it up, & just grind even harder because that’s just something I don’t ever see myself doing for the rest of my life. College isn’t easy, by far and I think the closer I am to finishing the more axienty I get and it makes me so nervous.

I learned that those small little pep talks to yourself, & just having genuine people in your corner to lift you up whenever you’re feeling down and out about something helps you out a lot.

Quick little message:

Another thing that I can offer you guys is don’t compare your life and what you’re doing to the next person. You might think someone has the perfect life via social media, but in reality they don’t! They’re trying to make a living just like you, they get stressed out because life can be overwhelming and they have a lot of bills that keeps adding up! Nothing is peaches and cream, we’re ALL human beings at the end of the day!

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Author: Takeia.

Hello beautiful souls, I'm Takeia Cage, and I'm the CEO/Founder of Unashamed Queens! I'm an advocate, momtrepreneur, life coach, and motivational blogger. I have always been dedicated to helping women re-discover their light, while walking in their truth, unashamed! It wasn’t until I was in my early twenties, when I discovered my calling to be an advocate for the women in my community. I have always wanted to be apart of a sisterhood that supported, uplifted, and celebrated women without us feeling judged or even ashamed of our journey. There wasn’t many women empowerment groups in my community that actually focused on celebrating queens, so I decided to create my own community for unashamed women. Now I am the founder of Unashamed Queens, a women’s empowerment group that focuses on supporting, uplifitng, and celebrating queenhood. I would always tell myself years ago that you can’t help anyone if you can’t help yourself, and today I believe that statement is so untrue. It wasn’t until I was re-discovering my own light, that I wanted to also encourage/help other women to re-discover theirs as well. I truly believe that we’re all stronger together, and that creating a safe-space for women to feel support and loved through sisterhood.

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