Re-focused.

Unplugging is very important to me.

Taking time to re-focus and align myself.

Pouring into myself.

Showing up for myself.

Eliminating unnecessary distractions.

Focusing more on the things I need to be doing.

When I need to be doing them.

Utilizing my planner.

Daily.

Checking things off.

Being productive, rather than busy.

Manifesting the things I want.

Investing more into my brand.

Speaking less.

Doing more.

Embracing growth.

Standing in my truth.

Shinning light on the positives.

Without facing the negatives with negativity.

Shifting my focus on being more centered in the now.

Not rushing anything.

Just letting everything flow.

Naturally.

Quick message:

When you are feeling as though you need to know what God is doing in your life, use that time to focus on what YOU need to be doing in your life, while he is making things happen behind the scene.

I think we get so caught up with wanting to know everything and every little detail that we miss out on the amazing things that’s happening around us.

Which can sometimes make us miss out on so many little blessings we tend to overlook, because we’re so busy wanting to know every single thing God is doing on our behalf.

Just be a little more patient.

Re-focus and center yourself in the NOW.

Xoxo,

Takeia Cage

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Life is always speaking to you and through you.

This year I have been allowing life to speak to me and through me.

I am allowing myself to fully trust the process.

Whatever the process is.

I’m trusting it.

There isn’t an end date.

Just a journey you are going to be on.

Everyday.

My mind, body and soul is open wide.

God has been telling me to enjoy these moments.

Without neglecting the lessons.

Life is always teaching you something.

Everyday.

It’s overwhelming.

But I feel free.

I am reminded that there is purpose in every single lesson life is teaching you.

I am also reminded that this life of mine is constantly changing.

My purpose is bigger than me.

It’s mind blowing.

But in a good way.

I am becoming more patient.

Matter of fact….

Life is teaching me self-discipline and control.

There are days where things don’t make sense.

But there is signs all around me.

Saying..

Keep going.

Never forget your WHY.

You were created for this.

God didn’t put you here to give up on what you were called to do.

You are allowed to stop.

To re-focus.

& re-discover your higher self.

It’s okay.

Life is about learning and unlearning things.

Embrace it all.

Feel every emotion.

Don’t hide anything from yourself.

Because life is always speaking to you and through you.

Xoxo,

Takeia Cage

Choosing ME

As I am entering this new season in my life….

Things are beginning to align perfectly.

Healthy boundaries have been set.

Toxic holds have been released.

I am FINALLY choosing ME.

I am making my peace and happiness a priority.

FINALLY.

It feels good to know that YOU can start completely over whenever YOU want to.

When YOU want to.

When YOU are ready, great things WILL find YOU.

I didn’t have to have it all together.

Even though we often feel as though we HAVE to have it all together before great things happen.

I just needed to be more open to receiving it.

Receiving ALL that was meant for ME.

Whatever that was.

I was finally OKAY with embracing the unknown.

I was open.

Ready like never before.

Releasing the things I thought I needed to control.

Like time.

Even though it doesn’t wait on no one.

I was practicing self-discipline + control.

Learning that it was ALL apart of his plan and NOT mine.

Those lessons was nothing but blessings.

Being fearful was too draining.

I had to release.

I had to learn how to let go.

Even when it hurt like HELL.

I felt better afterwards.

Surprisingly.

Telling myself ” Girl, YOU could’ve BEEN did this”.

Smh.

Oh well.

I finally surrendered all of me.

I’m finally choosing ME.

XoXo,

Takeia Cage

Pushing through….

Lately…

I’ve been so intentional with my time and the things I give my energy to.

Being abundantly grateful for the life I have and CURRENTLY creating.

Embracing the uncertainty without putting any limitations on myself.

My heart is so full.

Fuller than it has ever been.

Things I didn’t have a clue about is finally becoming clearer each and everyday.

I think it’s really bizarre how the moment we feel as though we have nothing.

God turns around and bless us with so much MORE.

Life is truly what you make of it.

There’s something out there that’s just for YOU.

Don’t give up.

Don’t stop looking for whatever that is.

I also want to let you in on a little secret….

It’s inside of you.

It starts with YOU.

Keep learning and being open to experiencing new things.

DON’T FORGET….

YOUR happiness is a choice that YOU have to make.

I am making that choice everyday.

Even when things get a little rough.

I am still pushing through.

PERIOD!

Xoxo,

Takeia Cage

Finding strength through my pain.

Pain caused me to feel hopeless, fearful, unworthy, withdrawn and depressed.

During this difficult season…

I placed my happiness in the palm of things that didn’t fulfill me.

Blaming the people who love and care about me; for the reason I wasn’t happy or content within myself.

Staying + being in places I absolutely hated.

Coming home feeling empty and emotionally drained.

Barely eating or sleeping.

I began to withdraw from the people that loved me the most.

Not realizing my selfishness was also causing them so much pain.

During that moment I didn’t care about anyone, anything or even myself.

I didn’t have a care in this world.

Desperately trying to find the woman who I knew God created me to be.

Using years of pain as an excuse as to why I was acting so shitty towards myself and others.

Cutting people off for my lack of emotional availability.

Harvesting my pain without working through it.

Having suicidal thoughts.

Feeling as though I was better off dead.

Thinking suicide was going to help.

Clearly…

I couldn’t do.

But…

I was hurting.

I was confused.

I didn’t know what to do next.

I knew at this very moment I needed God, his love, forgiveness, mercy and grace.

I started to repair my relationship with God, which made me repair my relationship with myself.

I stopped holding onto things I had no control over.

I began to pray, speak more positive things to myself and life.

Even when I was faced with difficulty.

Prayer and daily devotions made me feel better.

This felt good.

I smiled and laughed more.

I unconditionally forgave myself and others.

I needed to feel like this, like myself.

Like the woman I knew God wanted me to be.

My healing and self-love journey was the beginning of something so beautiful.

This journey is an ever lasting journey.

I don’t always good, productive and positive days.

No one does, it’s life.

But there’s been more good days than bad.

But it’s MINE.

This life I live everyday.

I am stronger, confident, wiser and most importantly a better me.

I am better with myself, the people I love and the people I come in contact with.

Pain isn’t forever.

It doesn’t last forever, unless YOU want it too.

There is so much joy after YOU realize your life is so much BIGGER than your pain, mistakes and past failures.

Pain helped me find my strength and purpose.

After feeling lost.

I was found.

I am happy, healthy and comfortable within myself and MY life.

Pain can help you.

Love and happiness can and will find YOU.

YOU just have to be willing to do the internal work.

Xoxo,

Takeia Cage

What being unavailable taught me this year.

Often times we speak so much on showing up and out for others and tend to forget to do those same exact things for ourselves. As much as it may be easier to pour into others, it’s also very imperative that we’re using that same energy to pour, love and nourish ourselves as well.

I had this problem last year, and it caused me to have the biggest burnout in my life.

I felt as though my mind, body and soul gave completely out.

I didn’t know if I was coming or going.

Everything around me felt like a blur, like I was losing my vision and over passion for the things I truly love and worked so hard for.

I didn’t feel like talking, going to events, being around people and to top it off I felt like giving up on MYSELF.

I’ve battled with depression and anxiety for years, and I don’t think it got worse until I got into my twenties.

I found myself going back down this dark path, that I knew I didn’t want to go down again.

I didn’t feel motivated, inspired or positive.

So instead of allowing the devil to steal my joy and peace.

I decided to rebuild this amazing bond and relationship with God, again.

I still have my days where I don’t feel motivated to do anything, but now I don’t beat myself up for feeling uninspired, motivated or distance.

I truly understand NOW that there are going to be days, weeks, shit even months where I don’t feel like being available to anything or anyone.

And guess what?

That’s okay.

For me; I have an amazing support system and handle of genuine people in my corner who completely understand, LOVES me and gives me my space when I need it.

QUICK FYI….

If you don’t have people around you, that don’t understand your NEED for having space, then maybe you don’t NEED those types of people in your space.

I’m not saying fall off the face of earth and completely lose contact with people you love and care about, but there isn’t anything wrong with being unavailable inorder to get YOU back together.

ALSO….

You don’t need to feel apologetic or ashamed for pouring into yourself and making YOU a priority.

Use this time to dig deeper within YOU, find things YOU enjoy and love to do, perfect your craft, fall back in love with yourself, try something new or whatever it is you feel you NEED to do to get back to YOU.

What being unavailable taught me about ME

There is this abundance amount of strength that’s within me, even when I feel weak at times.

ALWAYS give gratitude to God.

Speak love and light into your life and circumstances everyday.

Instead of complaining about needing a break, give yourself THAT break YOU need.

Stop explaining yourself to people who are selfish and don’t care about your mental well-being.

The more you embrace and love on the woman you are today, you will make room for the woman you will become in the future.

Your self-love and care journey is going to always be an ongoing journey, there’s always going to be so many new things to learn about yourself.

There isn’t nothing wrong with wanting to be alone.

Release, refresh, relax and reflecting is so imperative.

The way you feel is valid, always have been and always will be.

Even when you don’t feel your best, don’t beat yourself up.

You’re going to have days where you feel like complete SHIT, and that’s completely fine and normal.

Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.

When you hear the term “self-care” what’s the first thing you think of?

A relaxing day at the spa? A trip to the nail salon? A warm bubble bath w/ a glass of wine? A little retail therapy? A day at the beach? Getting a wax? Reading a new book you got from the library? Going to the movies alone? Coffee date? Or maybe doing some type of meditation/yoga?

What self-care looks like to me…

When I think of self-care, I think about unplugging + getting intune with my inner-self. It’s investing, putting myself first, and loving myself enough to make myself a priority.

Self-care is taking the initiative time for yourself, when your mind and body is telling you otherwise.

As much as we know that we can’t pour from an empty cup, we still tend to keep pouring, until we’re completely empty, which isn’t healthy. We do this because we think that if we take time out for ourselves, we’re being selfish, but I am here to tell you that self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.

Quick self-reflection…

A few years ago I would have never pictured myself practicing self-care, and digging deep within myself. I was definitely the type of person that made sure everything + everyone around me was great, which slowly made me lose myself. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with depression, that I knew I had to take better care of my mental, emotional, and physical well-being. It wasn’t easy, but it was definitely worth it.

Also…

If you’re taking care of yourself, and it’s making you happy, a better person, and you feel an abundance amount of peace in your life, why would you care if it offends someone else? There are going to be people in your life that’s not going to understand your self-care/love journey, but that has nothing to do with you! Some people are content with seeing you down and out, and can’t fathom a new and improve you.

But guess what? That’s okay…

These types of people will always try to discredit you, and the places you’re headed. Their thoughts, and negative opinions about your self-care journey has nothing to do with you, but it says lot about them, and one day they’ll have to face it for themselves. But until then, continue to move forward in love.
Self-care is imperative, and essential to our everyday life.

You might be the type of person that’s always looking out for others, and tend to neglect yourself. Or you think self-care is spending money, you sometimes don’t have. But self-care is a lot of things, and it doesn’t always have to involve money. This could be taking a bubble bath, reading a book/blog, catching up on your favorite tv shows, trying out a new recipe you seen on Pinterest, writing etc. Don’t get me wrong, self-care looks different for everyone, and that’s okay.

Quick side note…

Sometimes we put too much on our plate when it comes to self-care; just focus on the things that works for you.

Things I want you all to know…

Self-care is doing the things that makes you feel good on the inside and out. It’s the simple things that brings you joy, and happiness. It’s the things that makes you feel whole, refreshed, cared for, loved, and recharged. Self-care is about being intentional, and mindful. Self-care is committing to growing, and loving on yourself everyday. It’s being gentle, and compassionate about the things you enjoy.

Here’s a self-care checklist to incorporate into your daily life, feel free to change things that fits your needs.

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XoXo,
Takeia Cage