Finding strength through my pain.

Pain caused me to feel hopeless, fearful, unworthy, withdrawn and depressed.

During this difficult season…

I placed my happiness in the palm of things that didn’t fulfill me.

Blaming the people who love and care about me; for the reason I wasn’t happy or content within myself.

Staying + being in places I absolutely hated.

Coming home feeling empty and emotionally drained.

Barely eating or sleeping.

I began to withdraw from the people that loved me the most.

Not realizing my selfishness was also causing them so much pain.

During that moment I didn’t care about anyone, anything or even myself.

I didn’t have a care in this world.

Desperately trying to find the woman who I knew God created me to be.

Using years of pain as an excuse as to why I was acting so shitty towards myself and others.

Cutting people off for my lack of emotional availability.

Harvesting my pain without working through it.

Having suicidal thoughts.

Feeling as though I was better off dead.

Thinking suicide was going to help.


I couldn’t do.


I was hurting.

I was confused.

I didn’t know what to do next.

I knew at this very moment I needed God, his love, forgiveness, mercy and grace.

I started to repair my relationship with God, which made me repair my relationship with myself.

I stopped holding onto things I had no control over.

I began to pray, speak more positive things to myself and life.

Even when I was faced with difficulty.

Prayer and daily devotions made me feel better.

This felt good.

I smiled and laughed more.

I unconditionally forgave myself and others.

I needed to feel like this, like myself.

Like the woman I knew God wanted me to be.

My healing and self-love journey was the beginning of something so beautiful.

This journey is an ever lasting journey.

I don’t always good, productive and positive days.

No one does, it’s life.

But there’s been more good days than bad.

But it’s MINE.

This life I live everyday.

I am stronger, confident, wiser and most importantly a better me.

I am better with myself, the people I love and the people I come in contact with.

Pain isn’t forever.

It doesn’t last forever, unless YOU want it too.

There is so much joy after YOU realize your life is so much BIGGER than your pain, mistakes and past failures.

Pain helped me find my strength and purpose.

After feeling lost.

I was found.

I am happy, healthy and comfortable within myself and MY life.

Pain can help you.

Love and happiness can and will find YOU.

YOU just have to be willing to do the internal work.


Takeia Cage


What being unavailable taught me this year.

Often times we speak so much on showing up and out for others and tend to forget to do those same exact things for ourselves. As much as it may be easier to pour into others, it’s also very imperative that we’re using that same energy to pour, love and nourish ourselves as well.

I had this problem last year, and it caused me to have the biggest burnout in my life.

I felt as though my mind, body and soul gave completely out.

I didn’t know if I was coming or going.

Everything around me felt like a blur, like I was losing my vision and over passion for the things I truly love and worked so hard for.

I didn’t feel like talking, going to events, being around people and to top it off I felt like giving up on MYSELF.

I’ve battled with depression and anxiety for years, and I don’t think it got worse until I got into my twenties.

I found myself going back down this dark path, that I knew I didn’t want to go down again.

I didn’t feel motivated, inspired or positive.

So instead of allowing the devil to steal my joy and peace.

I decided to rebuild this amazing bond and relationship with God, again.

I still have my days where I don’t feel motivated to do anything, but now I don’t beat myself up for feeling uninspired, motivated or distance.

I truly understand NOW that there are going to be days, weeks, shit even months where I don’t feel like being available to anything or anyone.

And guess what?

That’s okay.

For me; I have an amazing support system and handle of genuine people in my corner who completely understand, LOVES me and gives me my space when I need it.


If you don’t have people around you, that don’t understand your NEED for having space, then maybe you don’t NEED those types of people in your space.

I’m not saying fall off the face of earth and completely lose contact with people you love and care about, but there isn’t anything wrong with being unavailable inorder to get YOU back together.


You don’t need to feel apologetic or ashamed for pouring into yourself and making YOU a priority.

Use this time to dig deeper within YOU, find things YOU enjoy and love to do, perfect your craft, fall back in love with yourself, try something new or whatever it is you feel you NEED to do to get back to YOU.

What being unavailable taught me about ME

There is this abundance amount of strength that’s within me, even when I feel weak at times.

ALWAYS give gratitude to God.

Speak love and light into your life and circumstances everyday.

Instead of complaining about needing a break, give yourself THAT break YOU need.

Stop explaining yourself to people who are selfish and don’t care about your mental well-being.

The more you embrace and love on the woman you are today, you will make room for the woman you will become in the future.

Your self-love and care journey is going to always be an ongoing journey, there’s always going to be so many new things to learn about yourself.

There isn’t nothing wrong with wanting to be alone.

Release, refresh, relax and reflecting is so imperative.

The way you feel is valid, always have been and always will be.

Even when you don’t feel your best, don’t beat yourself up.

You’re going to have days where you feel like complete SHIT, and that’s completely fine and normal.

Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.

When you hear the term “self-care” what’s the first thing you think of?

A relaxing day at the spa? A trip to the nail salon? A warm bubble bath w/ a glass of wine? A little retail therapy? A day at the beach? Getting a wax? Reading a new book you got from the library? Going to the movies alone? Coffee date? Or maybe doing some type of meditation/yoga?

What self-care looks like to me…

When I think of self-care, I think about unplugging + getting intune with my inner-self. It’s investing, putting myself first, and loving myself enough to make myself a priority.

Self-care is taking the initiative time for yourself, when your mind and body is telling you otherwise.

As much as we know that we can’t pour from an empty cup, we still tend to keep pouring, until we’re completely empty, which isn’t healthy. We do this because we think that if we take time out for ourselves, we’re being selfish, but I am here to tell you that self-care isn’t selfish, it’s selfless.

Quick self-reflection…

A few years ago I would have never pictured myself practicing self-care, and digging deep within myself. I was definitely the type of person that made sure everything + everyone around me was great, which slowly made me lose myself. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with depression, that I knew I had to take better care of my mental, emotional, and physical well-being. It wasn’t easy, but it was definitely worth it.


If you’re taking care of yourself, and it’s making you happy, a better person, and you feel an abundance amount of peace in your life, why would you care if it offends someone else? There are going to be people in your life that’s not going to understand your self-care/love journey, but that has nothing to do with you! Some people are content with seeing you down and out, and can’t fathom a new and improve you.

But guess what? That’s okay…

These types of people will always try to discredit you, and the places you’re headed. Their thoughts, and negative opinions about your self-care journey has nothing to do with you, but it says lot about them, and one day they’ll have to face it for themselves. But until then, continue to move forward in love.
Self-care is imperative, and essential to our everyday life.

You might be the type of person that’s always looking out for others, and tend to neglect yourself. Or you think self-care is spending money, you sometimes don’t have. But self-care is a lot of things, and it doesn’t always have to involve money. This could be taking a bubble bath, reading a book/blog, catching up on your favorite tv shows, trying out a new recipe you seen on Pinterest, writing etc. Don’t get me wrong, self-care looks different for everyone, and that’s okay.

Quick side note…

Sometimes we put too much on our plate when it comes to self-care; just focus on the things that works for you.

Things I want you all to know…

Self-care is doing the things that makes you feel good on the inside and out. It’s the simple things that brings you joy, and happiness. It’s the things that makes you feel whole, refreshed, cared for, loved, and recharged. Self-care is about being intentional, and mindful. Self-care is committing to growing, and loving on yourself everyday. It’s being gentle, and compassionate about the things you enjoy.

Here’s a self-care checklist to incorporate into your daily life, feel free to change things that fits your needs.


Takeia Cage


2017 has been a year filled with an abundance amount of peace, healing and self-forgiveness. There has been so many highs, lows, lessons and sacrifices. 

This year I had to learn the importance of letting go of the need to be perfect…. 

Knowing that the need to be perfect has hindered me in so many ways. & when I say that, I mean I was only holding myself back because my fear of failing or making mistakes. 

I had to make that decision that everything wasn’t going to always be sunshine and roses. You’re going to make mistakes, a lot of them and that’s OKAY! You don’t have to know everything, or even have everything figured out step by step.

You also don’t have to rush anything that God wants you to have, period! When you don’t understand the importance of being patient w/ God and trusting the process to get to where he wants you to be, it’s going to seem like nothing is working out in your favor because you want it right then and there! & often times, the things we pray for daily, be things we don’t know how to handle once we get them.

In 2017….

I also ended up falling back into a deep depression. I was working for a company who didn’t value, support, or appreciate me. I felt as though I was losing myself and my passion/purpose for the type of work God placed into my heart. 

Everyday I would wake up, and immediately feel terrible on the inside because I knew I had to walk into a place I knew I shouldn’t be. Instead of making the best out of the situation, I allowed this employer to take MY power away

I had to realize that if you wake up every morning and believe you’re going to have a terrible day, guess what? You’re going to have a terrible day! I didn’t want to see the good in the situation because my focus was getting completely out of it, instead of using that time to reflect on what this situation taught me about myself.


Instead of thinking about the negative things you’re experiencing at that job, write down a list of lessons and things you’re grateful for, from that employer. 

Let’s start reclaiming our time and power from people and things we give complete control to. Let’s continue to find lessons and share our stories with one another, that’s going through something similar. Let’s continue to think positive, but also not neglect the negative things that’s transpiring in our lives. 

After God gently removed me from that employer…

I spent my two month work-free break, reclaiming my time and doing things I absolutely enjoy. I started to journal more, I started taking better care of ME and the people around me. I started setting clear intentions and boundaries with myself and other people. 

There has been a blessing in every lesson this year, from leaving a job in the beginning of the year that I loved, to a job from hell, to a new job that has so many opportunities and advances. I know that there’s so much more for me, and God is going to make sure that I not only see those blessings but feel them as well. 

As I wrap up this post…

2017 has taught me to be more gentle, compassionate, kinder, loving and trusting my strengths. 

When I decided to fully commit to myself, so many things began to change in my life, doors began to open, and saying “no” to things, people and places I didn’t want to be became easier. 


Takeia Cage


MOOD: Solange Knowles

As we’re finally approaching the last 2 weeks of 2017; 

I’m always reminded of how change is imperative and essential to our well-being. Without change, there’s no room for growth. Without change, life can become still, limited, unfulfilled, and stale. 

I personally don’t wait until the New Year to make life changes, but for some; that’s a new start and beginning for them. I think it’s important that change should be something we do throughout the year, preferably every 3-6 months. 


There’s just something about the year 2018; it falls on a Monday, which is the beginning of a new day and week. I don’t know why I’m super excited about that, but I am. 

I feel as though 2018 is going to be the year of expansion and abundance. I have been setting the tone, doing the work, and being more consistent. I also wrote a list of things I need more and less of. I feel like this list came right on time, and it’s been holding me accountable for my actions and just being more aware of the things I need to focus more on.


I’ve been realizing that you need to give yourself something to look forward to. If you want to have an amazing + purposeful year, understand that you can indeed have that, period! You have to believe you’re worthy and deserving of greater things. 

I know when you’re so used to things not coming through, or when you have an ounce of hope, then it’s quickly snatched away. Yes, that can be very frustrating and discouraging at time, but you have to also believe that everything does happen for a reason, and there’s a lesson behind everything. 


Takeia Cage

I am unapologetically confident. 

I am unapologetically confident.

I am proud of my fucked up past.

I am unashamed of my truth.

I am learning more everyday.

I am re-discovering my power.

I am black girl joy.

I am self-love.

I am becoming.

Embracing my truth has been something that has required a great deal of internal work and self- love and forgiveness. Often times people don’t understand the importantance of actually doing the work, because it’s imperative to your growth. 

I mean…

Doing the work sounds super cliche, but it’s so super important.

I started this new journey a few years ago, and what I have learned throughout these years is that even in the mist of uncertainty, express gratitude in all things. 

I’ve also learned that…

What’s for you will always be for you, rather you see it or not. & that great shit takes time, so stop rushing or forcing things to happen and allow them blessings to naturally flow. 

I’ve taught myself over the years how to be more vulnerable, transparent, gentle, and compassionate within myself. I think what makes this journey amazing is the fact that I’m able to embrace all of these different emotions, without running away from shit that makes me uncomfortable.

Today I am celebrating the woman I am becoming, while releasing the woman I thought I was. I am more focused on being more intentional, gentle and compassionate within myself. 

Today I am no longer submitting to self-sabotage thoughts, but simply using all of those lessons as tools and resources to help and inspire other women to be comfortable within themselves. 

Today I am cultivating the life I want to live, and it feels amazing. 


Takeia Cage 


There’s been so many shifts + blessings that’s been pouring repeatedly into my life these past few months, and im overwhelmed with joy. I feel as though God has been listening, and seeing all of the hard work I’ve been putting in when it comes to my mental wellbeing, school, and brand.

If you’ve been following my blog + podcast, you would know that I talked about leaving a really toxic work environment and not settling for second best. During that time; I was in a really dark space, and being able to get out of that toxic environment made me appreciate all of the hard work I’ve been putting in, instead of dwelling on this one bad experience.

Great news…

I’ve had multiple job offers within the last two months, and a few weeks ago, I accepted a job offer that I’m extremely excited about. I was a little skeptical at first because it’s definitely something different, but I love the fact that’s it’s more challenging + and there’s room for growth in the company.

It just feel so good to finally be back in my creative space, and doing the things I enjoy doing. During this break I’ve been reclaiming my time, and putting all of my energy into finishing this semester off strong, collabing with other bloggers, working on creating more safe-spaces for women, and also planning an event that I plan on hosting at the end of the year.

Quick reflection…

When I look back and reflect on everything that’s been transpiring this year, I immediately thank God for closing doors that were meant to be shut a long time ago. There are days where I feel my absolute best, and then there are days where I don’t even want to get out of bed. But regardless of whatever I feel like I’m facing, I know that I’m not facing it alone and I’m blessed.

What I’ve learned during this break…

I’ve learned that you have to find the things that brings you the most joy in life, and journey there. Be proud of your failures, mistakes, misfortunes, and most importantly the person you couldn’t be at that very moment. Instead of picking at old wounds, find new and healthy ways to love on yourself.

Here’s a journal prompt:

Have you ever had to let go of something that was not good for you, even if it was painful or disorienting at the time? Was it a blessing? What lesson did you learn?